Last night I was at Walmart with Erika when my sons girlfriends mom calls me screaming in my ear. She tells me that I have called her daughter a whore and that I talk bad about her daughter behind her back. I assure her that I would never call her daughter a whore, nor did I talk bad about her. All that I have said is that I wish Daniel wouldn't date her because I do not want him to get hurt so badly again. She continues to be very mad so I ask her to please call me back when she isn't so upset and hang up. About 1 minute later she calls back, guess what, she is still very upset. She goes on to tell me that I am a bad mother and that Daniel is 17 and I should allow him to do whatever he wants to. I tell her to please not tell me that I am a bad mother and ask her again to call me back when she calms down so that we can discuss the problem. I called Daniel and told him that he needed to call his girlfriend and get this situation fixed. He told me that he had never told his girlfriend that I had said such horrible things and that the mother only called me acting ugly because she was drunk. He acted like it should be okay that she acted that way just because she was drunk. When I was a child there were always people in my life that would get drunk and use that as an excuse to abuse me both mentally and physically. When I became an adult I vowed that there would never be another alcoholic in my life. But now Daniel has this girlfriend and I guess he cares for her very much. And if she is going to be a part of his life I will have to accept it, but why should I have to accept someone calling me yelling in my ear? She has now made it to where none of us will ever be comfortable around each other. She should have just called and asked civilly if there was a problem instead of yelling and making accusations. If Daniel and his girlfriend stay together her mother will be a part of my life for a while, how am I supposed to make it okay between us if she is so angry over something that was never said? Also, how am I supposed to just forget that she called me a bad mother when being a good mother is one of the most important things in my life? And even worse, this family attends the same church that we do. What if I walk in on Sunday and she tries to cause a scene? I love the church and the members to much to bring in conflict. What am I supposed to do about this? Maybe attend a different church? I do not want Daniels girlfriends family to not attend church because of me.
Daniel tried to call the mother and tell her that those things were not said, he ended up yelling at her. She told him he couldn't talk to his girlfriend again, maybe that is for the best, if not God will work it out between them.
At first I was mad at Daniel, he knows of my past, why in the world would he bring another alcoholic into my life? Did he say that I said those horrible things about his girlfriend, why would he allow this to happen? Then I stopped being so immature and realized that it isn't his fault, that it is no ones, it is just another trial to make us a better stronger family. Please pray for me that I handle this maturely and make the situation better instead of worse.